I watched her relaxing among the warmth of translucent bath water, tanned legs and elfin feet angled upwards to rest gracefully on the white lip of the bath. Nestled in her nightly routine, small glistening beads of sweat formed over her forehead, and her pale face glowed. The sun kissed skin of her body languished beneath the depth of water and her closed eyelids, flickered ever so slightly. Her closed butterfly like eyelids made it easy to thoroughly and watchfully examine the map of her face; a dusting of faded freckles covered her cheeks and nose, laughter lines alongside her mouth and softly etched lines neighbouring her eyes hint to her having lived a spirited life. She opens her eyes and gracefully removes herself from the bath, wrapping herself in a white bath sheet, proceeds to towel herself dry and with the caress of her hand, she uses a round makeup pad to remove the final traces of sweat, and the day’s worries from her mask and face. She slides into her bed releasing herself from mundane life into the world of dreams.
A late Saturday night party in the distance and the stifling warmth of the summer night keep her tossing in her usually comfortable cocoon of bed. There are moments where she wakes and I contemplate if she is alert to my presence. Once morning gently rises through her eastern window, she arouses from sleep. Motionless I continue watching. The morning noise of dogs barking, amongst the summer cicada symphony is layered with the warbled chorus of sulphur crested cockatoos, noisy black koels, colourful rosellas, kookaburras and lorikeets. In the distance the din and whirr of traffic and noisy leaf blowers escalates. An early morning shower of rain exemplifies the ethereal majestic trees that fringe her room-the huge Blackbutt, Turpentine trees and a single gnarly Red gum tree rise above her nook in suburbia. It is her haven and home to herself and a vast colourful array of bird life who are delighting in the freshness of moisture and the new day.
Time and its void had slipped between and beyond us. As she opens her almond coloured brown eyes to face the day, I smile. Her smile I notice embodies and is a reflection of my own. She swings her legs to the floor, rises with morning tiredness and pads her feet across the yellow tongue and groove pine floor. Carefully, I slip out of her way. You might think I am her lover, admirer or a voyeur. I do love her, admire her and at times, I come, listen and watch.
The darkened shadows and stillness of night is when I usually decide to emerge. I observe the routines of the woman who is a personification of myself. She is alive, candid and her life has been lived. She has made mistakes and errors in her life yet has also loved ferociously and for the same reason lost much; she is a warrior mother and yearns to be loved passionately as the dreams that besiege her. Her facial lines platform a loss of youth and her subtle ageing narrates the wounds of her soul. She has recounted thousands of stories in her life and unlike me, she chats endlessly, excitedly interjecting, and altering the direction of many conversations. Her smile warms my imperturbable soul. Recollections of a unique visit together, where we shared French champagne, stood side by side on wide steps of majestic buildings, and posed for photos captured on 35mm film that were rush developed at a two-hour photo laboratory, and now lay buried in boxes on dusty bookshelves, suffusing my essence. Chances long ago allowed us the shortened pleasures in an English summer. Watching Wimbledon is the quintessence of English summer spectator sport, it is when England is lush and green, strawberries and cream are delectably devoured, and the scent of lavender wafts into the air as you wander with delight around the numerous outside grass courts. When I whiff lavender in the space of time between us, I feel tears drop into the air. However, they are never my tears, as I cease to cry.
One day, I suspected she would seek to find me. That day happened in 2003 when she wrote a letter seeking information and the whereabouts of her birth mother.
Pregnant with my first child, my sister boarded a plane and travelled to London to meet me. Twelve months of penned sisterhood in our thirty-something years of our own lives was how our relationship began. Biologically we were sisters but had grown up in different families on opposite sides of the world. I had grown up with our parents in London and she with her adoptive family in Sydney. Our mother relinquished my elder sister, whilst young and working in Australia. Years later our mother returned to England, became engaged, married our father and produced two more children, our brother and myself. These details are what bind us in the familial world.
Her serious and investigative genealogical quest began in 1991 when she was first pregnant. The new life developing daily within her stirred a maternal wondering of her own biological mother. She imagined the difficulty of relinquishing a baby. The Adoption Act had changed and allowed her the opportunity to apply for a non-official birth certificate that defined the particulars of her birth, namely her parentage. Two years of continual pondering passed and with a second baby nestled tightly in her uterus, the timing was impeccable. The day was a Friday, when she received the envelope that provided the name of a woman, who twenty-seven years prior had been pregnant with her. Three days later, she gave birth to a daughter. Knowing her own mother’s name, age and that she was English provided a much longed for and desired connection to the woman who gave birth to her.
Our life together, however, was not ever meant to be. It would always be lived through thoughts, imaginings and longings. Sometimes wants, wishes and desires do not align with what we hope to determine. Through the universal network of fate, destiny had brought my sister and I together, however for a second time fate determined that we eternally be kept apart. Cancer was the ruin of our newly kindled relationship. I am a mother but no longer exist. I was a wife and no longer am. My earthly roles of, mother, daughter, sister, wife, friend, and niece were extinguished by my inability to beat the insidiousness that invaded my blood, the bone marrow transplant I endured although successful, my body had battled enough and no longer could combat infection. With the ventilator detached, my life, relationships, hopes and dreams abruptly ceased.
As I transcend to visit my sister, I sense she is aware of my energy; her fleeting memories of our moments together, are what draw me near. The affection she exudes as she contemplates, a once shared conversation, our visit to the majestic Brighton Palace, lunch in a quirky English pub in the historic Laines or our last extended and celebratory family dinner together permeates and radiates over me, albeit, my light lives on. I visit when she least expects. I grace those that I loved. I am the aroma that lingers in a memory and the sensation of a presence when the hair on your arms stands on end. You rationalise that I do not exist but I am within your heart and mind, I am the energy that helps you live. I am not palpable; my soul subsists despite my body succumbing to leukaemia. I left to this world a son who now is in high school. I visit to watch him too. He was nine months old, when my body yielded to the obliteration of cancer. I do not want my dying to define his life. He does not remember me but I am his semblance, witness to his hopes and dreams. As the unknown, the intangible and non-matter, you cannot visualise me, however, a sixth sense or your gut expresses to you that I am possible and here.
My curtailed life was serendipitous; especially when the woman in the bath, my sister, chose to seek something, she felt missing. Her connection to something else, greater than herself, caused her to find the other family members that she knew somehow, somewhere existed. The little girl within that woman long ago, trusted a feeling in her soul, she in some unique unfathomable manner sensed that she had other family, perhaps a sister someplace and vowed that one day she would find out. Thankfully her wilfulness, courage and tenacity to search for me was fortuitous and life gratifying.
Life in all its glory- fate, destiny or the determination of events, allowed a small window of opportunity for us to meet. The woman in the bath took years to ultimately discover her origins. At times, like Pandora’s Box, voluminous good things resulted but also many a far-reaching emotional consequence erupted. She is a survivor and the thoughts, feelings and vibes in the depths of her soul are her illumination. Her energy is contagious. Her days are lived, breathed and I am glad that she sought to meet. As Hannah’s spirit, I hover in time among great mythical goddesses in the Milky Way.
Viewing photographs, that line the cream hand worn walls, assorted images of children smile happily, the nieces and nephew, I never encountered and yearned to know, I reflect that her eldest daughter is an altered and modern image of myself, a doppelganger. The two dimensional images depict my lost family, screening eerie family resemblances and the inherited connection of both blue and almond brown eyes, fair skin and mousey brown hair. The rhythm of ballerina feet in my sister and her daughters and the mannerisms they exhibit as they perform daily feats is hauntingly beautiful. The essence of myself is encapsulated among the fragrance of white lilies and lavender that scent her front garden.
Sisters have an uncanny, timeless, unique and universal bond that transcends hemispheres, time apart and life. She is part my bones, part my soul and my long gone attachment to life. She understands what I unwittingly, cruelly, under duress and unfortunately suffered, that priceless memories of an anticipated motherhood were never to be lived. She is living my vanished life. My sister, our mother’s first daughter, was the first granddaughter, however, the related ancestral family, went to their own graves naïve to her existence. The determination she afforded in finding us, her biological family transpired to result in the most exceptional family meeting for our mother, brother, now deceased father and myself. She had a sliver, a spell of time, a sliding door into our English world and those of us, who had longed to meet her, encompassed the moment of serendipity. As orange and pink hued sunsets magnificently cast beauty over the western mountain range and days fade away, I hope she appreciates and recognises that what she rightly sensed in her soul, years ago and does still today in the present is worth trusting.